We men are not that complicated, really. It just appears women want to make us that way. However, our levels of maturity and cycles of dating are something out of the ordinary.
Here is a sample, not an exact model, of a typical dating cycle for a man from boyhood until way deep into life.
1. Chasing Around During Recess
This is how women first get into bad boys. They often fail to get past the perception "if he hits you, he likes you." This is usually only true in elementary school, when he chases you around, throws rocks at you, and may throw you in the mud. He may occasionally write one of those corny "do you like me" notes. At this age, those, he is literally about the chase.
2. The butt and boob grab.
This is around middle school and early high school. Puberty has ascended upon the males and hormones are out of control, especially with how the girl's bodies have matured. In short, this is the pervert portion of a young male's life. Oftentimes the guys will show their affection by grabbing a girl's booty and running. The more brave will grab a breast. These are the times when a young man has usually received his first kiss, once he learns to control his hands.
3. Puppy Love.
You are full on into high school. You have many crushes, but may only one to date one girl. You want to take her to the school dance, prom, or even want her to be your first. This can turn into puppy love, as you believe this is your future wife. Sometimes this ends up that way, but most of the times the guy still wants to play the field.
4. Young Adulthood.
The guy either is married right now, or is engaged in a variety of activities. These could include college, the military, or their first full time job. They're trying to earn enough money and/or education to make themselves more desirable to a woman, even if they aren't settling just yet.
5. Going through certain female types.
You may be going through your "opposite race" phase, big girl, prep, cheerleader, or even cougar phase. An older, attractive woman has their eye on you, and you feel like Dustin Hoffman in The Graduate: flattered and drawn into her. You could end up with any of these ladies, but you at least want to try out these ladies first.
6. Settling Down
OK now you're ready to settle. You have it together financially, you have a steady woman, maybe a child or two together. You realize it's time to become a family man and get married.
7. Divorcee' or widower
It can be tough to get back in the saddle when your perfect marriage has fallen apart. You almost have to learn the dating game again, depending upon how long you have been out of it. It can be very challenging.
8. The Old Man In The Club.
This is something most do not care to be. They are few, but around. These men are like sugar daddies, going after much younger women, trying to manipulate them, and even using old school lines on them.
9. Old, Retired, and Just Tired
At a certain point, even the most vibrant man cools down. Viagra and Cialis have increased sexual activity amongst the senior citizen community. However many would rather settle in and watch Matlock with their wives and go to bed at 8pm than go out hunting for more or new action.
Men's sexual peak does end early, and that's probably why so many of us like to date a lot while young. Either way, if he's the settling type, he will eventually settle. Just allow him to do it on his terms and bear in mind he may have more living left to do.
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