Ok its the middle of the year. Summer is in full swing and the 4th of July is about a week away. Fellas, I feel your pain. You're in a rough patch right now, dating wise. Some of you simply go on dates every weekend but can't find a steady woman. Others of you have it so dry that the last hot female you saw was Scarlett Johanssen in The Avengers. I've been there, have the T-Shirt, and have broken free numerous times. I'm going to help you all do the same.
1. Re-evaluate your standards
I'm not saying don't go for the hottest female in the room. Just keep your options wide open and find a more well balanced chick. Think Coming To America. You want a woman of Shari Headley's stature, that can think and carry an intelligent conversation.
2. Change of venue/city
Often going to the same places will get old. Gas prices are currently low and it is vacation season. Therefore, venture out to surrounding cities and places. Try concerts, festivals, even yard sales and shopping malls. Go to places you have never been to find females. You will be suprised at the qualities.
3. Know yourself, your interests, and love them.
Self confidence and love is a must. A woman can smell insecurity and fear. Therefore, know your interests and strengths, and capitalize on these. Find common ground with other females, use this to your advantage, and you will find its easier to converse with them.
4. Don't be Every Man, but be well rounded.
It's true women have a lot of layers and seem to want everything. For you bad boys, showing some sensitivity wouldn't hurt. For you nice, shy guys, speak up! If you're feeling a woman, make small talk with her, assert yourself, and show how manly you are.
For all men, bragging isn't necessary. However, show some of the things you can bring to the table such as a stable job, healthy physique, good manners, family values, etc. Women tend to want a good hearted man who is like a chameleon: can express himself well when defending her, in the bedroom, taking care of home, and just being a regular guy. Be yourself, but don't become one dimensional.
5. Laughter Is Good.
One need not be a Mike Epps or a Chris Rock. However, a sense of humor is important. Be able to laugh at yourself, and even be honest in expressing certain views. Truth is often stranger and more humorous than fiction.
6. Go Beyond Sex and go for intimacy also.
Sex, money, etc are all important in any romantic relationship. However, scale back and don't always make it your mission to get the drawers or goodies. Show some patience, let her encourage it, and focus on intimacy. This will often separate the good women from the fast women and dirty butts. Trust me fellas, if she's worth it, everything will come, including sex. Women just don't need for that to always be your number one mission. Think about how often women get offered sex daily. You must separate yourself.
I hope I can help some of you fellas in need find someone to at least hang with for the rest of the summer, and on into the fall when its cooler. Just be easy, take it one step and day at a time, and don't try too hard.
From the opposite site of the fence...speaking for the women you hit the nail on the head.
ReplyDeleteMost girls, or young women want a guy they can trust. Talk openly with and enjoy themselves without being pressured into the bedroom on the first or second date.
Take it from an older woman...we still want to be appreciated, respected and seen as an intelligent individual -- not just a play thing.
I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found the right Prince Charming!