Many of us get into it with our mothers from time to time.Even as adults, we may not still curse or talk back to them. But there has seemingly been a collective head bumping since puberty that seems to take decades to taper off.
I can speak from experience here. My mom and I have gotten really heated at times. We have had to fall back from each other for often days at a time. Yes we have an awesome relationship but it's not all peaches and cream.
It seems like girls are more than likely to fight and fuss with their mothers, while guys typically want to be more protective and quiet. Also with guys, you want to treat your mother well. That's where it starts as a child. You will tend to treat other women well.
Here are four quick tips on facilitating the healing after a blowout with your mom.
1. Distance
Realize what has happened and back away from the situation. Trust me here. Give it a day or two, then talk it out like civilized adults.
2. Admit your shortcomings.
Yes when mama's unhappy, everybody is, even when she's in the wrong. Admit your own faults, and try to find common ground.
3. Let It Go
Sometimes it's simply not that crucial to be getting all upset about. It could also have long term effects. You may win the battle, but you'll lose the war. Choose your words and battles carefully and know when to leave it alone.
4. End the altercation in peace.
This is the hardest but after common ground, find some peace in the midst of conflict. You may need a buffer to assist, but you don't wanna leave things too tense for too long. Most of us want peace and not war anyways, especially with the person that brought us into this world.
Remember fights are often inevitable but there's usually nothing beyond repair. Keep it moving and don't stop loving your mother. You only have one after all.
What is the worst fight you and your mother ever had? How did you deal with it?
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