Just the Facts, Ma'am

There has been so many twisting of facts and thoughts lately, ultimately resulting in lies, drama, protests, boycotts, outrages, etc. Geez Louise why can't folks get their stuff right?

Anyone can make a website or a blog and make the right subject go viral. This is how outlets like TMZ make their living. The Enquirer has did this for decades. We also have fact checking tools now such as Snopes and others to validate statements and headlines. We choose to get all bent out of shape first. But for what?

It reminds me of high school when anyone would believe juicy gossip and the he said/she said. Think about it. One person tells another something, then they tell another. By the time it reaches the 8th and greater person, you may go from a couple of sentences to a paragraph that fast, everyone adding their own spin. I played an activity game like this before.

Having this knowledge in hand, why would you blindly believe any ole thing? Even worse, why would you share questionable articles? All I know is this, you better come correct to me. Reputable facts, articles, the whole nine. I only believe half of what I hear, and less what I see.

Time for all to get correct

TABLES: Summer Edition and Lots of Hate

Man the tables have turned, literally.

It's a problem for Eli when his core group at both tables. Plenty of haters and negativity when Patricia and Rolanda are out. Mr. Moe is a stabilizing force, but now RC is starting to hate.

She gets onto Eli for crazy reasons. She supposedly wants him now, and he is trying to change and shape him. She's very blunt, one of those who will tell you like it is, but isn't very positive. Hereby, she's a hater with lots of issues. She needs to go on to the pound and buy a couple of cats. She's the Maneater that Hall and Oates sings of. Too toxic and too much of a bully in the breakroom. Eli definitely considers simply a physical relationship, but nothing more.

Patricia still doesn't care, but now you have the opposite of RC: too sweet and passive Naya. Eli has taken her under his wing and is trying to help her in a chaotic, low morale type environment.

Where will Eli sit next? It seems the wrong women are around him (outside of Patrice and Naya). This other one woman who's the nosy auntie, Brenda, seems to be sweet on him. Brenda is trouble, period. Eli needs to figure stuff out for real.

Cater to your mate, it's doable

Ok along with other various issues, the gender roles issue is slowly rising as we enter into cuffing season  (it's a thing people).

You are seeing more and more people refusing to cater to their mates. I'm talking more than being a Stepford from a 50s sitcom staying home all day cooking and cleaning. That can be done and have a career. I have seen it, and if you want it bad enough, it can happen.

This goes for men not helping out, or feeling like they're working too much or not appreciated. I often wonder like the lady from the video that inspired this post "who raised y'all?"  I realize many of you aren't surrounded by folks in good healthy relationships and marriages and that's cool. What isn't cool is to stay stuck in the same rut of doing the bare minimum for your mate, only to see them happy and loving someone else. They brought what you didn't to the table, point blank period.

Relationships are give, take and sacrifice. When you get a good person, especially the right one, it's time to go that extra mile. Take the kids to school or daycare. Cook and clean that night. Make arrangements for date night. Be intimidate with each other more often. Basically, show each other LOVE. You do this, the right one will hang around , trust me.

Ok enough being bitter. Get the one you deserve and keep balance in your life and house!

Larenz Tate, where ya been?

Sometimes we all have to take a break and get away from everyone and everything, especially if you're a celeb. Larenz Tate, similar to Morris Chestnutt, did just this. Many older heads like myself thought he decided just to chill, or was done.

That is, until the last few weeks.

Tate appeared in the summer's #1 comedy Girls Trip as the college friend/love interest, and have a cameo in Power recently. He is still the same actor, looks and talent wise. It's good to see more passionate actors of colors, but Tate should never be forgotten and should get more roles if we wants it.

He was definitely needed when cinema, especially black cinema, was down. Could it be he's back to capitalize on the success and appeal of black cinema? Maybe but can't blame him. He's a blast from the past that realizes there is a market for him now.

I'm obviously a fan, and I like the sexy women who have been his love interest (Nia Long, Vivica, Lela Rochon, Halle, etc, etc).Now can he leave Yvonne Orjii alone? Yeah Insecure's ratings would really sour, especially after Game Of Thrones is done. But c'mon Larenz, you can't have them all.

And finally, thank you for staying off of trash reality TV.

Curving season rolls on

Yes we've heard of cuffing season. But what about the season we know about, casually mention, but haven't put a name on it. Ladies and gentlemen, it's curving season!

This is typically when a woman is dressed nice in a sundress, shorts, a romper, or something to maximize her body type. She then walks around, casually avoiding, ignoring, basically curving guys.

Before anyone thinks this is negative, continue to read.

Often this happens in the summer to early fall months. During this time, even single ladies aren't trying to be bothered with a mate. They just want to enjoy themselves and freely show off their physique in peace. It's not necessarily teasing or thirst trapping.

So yes curving season is in full effect. Shoot I just got curved yesterday.

If you're interested in a female, by all means try to talk to her. Just don't take it personal if she gives you a cold response. She may not be ready just yet. Try again around September or October. That's when another season we know of comes around: cuffing season!

Revealing spoilers on social media needs to stop, period

It's like when you go on social media, so often people get so emotional about a certain issue or topic, they lose all of their home training. They become loud, ignorant, and flat out disrespectful.

Enter those that spoil TV shows.

I seriously thought when ABC announced that this upcoming season would be the final one for Scandal, I would get my Thursdays back, free from spoilers and folks posting every frikkin second. I would then be able to unhide some former "Gladiators" .

Enter Power, along with Firesticks and Kodi.

Power has become the show to watch, especially since nothing new is on Netflix and football hasn't resumed. The problem is people reveal spoilers as soon as the show is available on the Firestick/Kodi, which is typically midnight on Sunday EST. 

Now before, I was one of few that hated spoilers and thought they were disrespectful to anyone that hadn't had a chance to see the show. I worked Sundays for nearly a year, so I can see how this can particularly hit a nerve.

People have their priorities mixed up, period. They want you to be polite, not catcall at them or talk to them a certain way. Yet they see no problem with revealing spoilers. Now I can (and do) hide, delete and block folks that do this. I don't see why you can't just create groups and pages for these popular shows and stop spoiling them, please!

Social media has truly brought out the worst and pettiness in many folks. It's truly the Billy The Kid syndrome, they see no wrong. But let the shoe be on the other foot and it happen to them then.

Now to look for more spoil sports before I go to bed. Also, I don't even get on before I watch a show. Scandal-holics learned me here. It doesn't make it right though.

Jay, Kendrick, J Cole are keeping hip hop alive. Nas, you're on deck!

Jay-Z has had quite a revival in his music career since his new album 4:44, dropped just before the 4th of July holiday.

It is just as good as advertised and more. He has grown up more, and addresses many of the things he has faced as a husband and father, including his infidelity with wife Beyonce.

Kendrick Lamar and J Cole have also released albums recently and both are great. It gives hip hop fans hope that the genre isn't dead and giving way to trap music.

Nas has been talking about releasing another album for over a year now. He is needed now more than ever. Yes these great artists have good music for us. But if you're like me, you want to see God's son doing more than just Hennessy commercials. He can still rap, make great music, and his people want to hear him.

Summertime is awesome for great, fresh music. I'm so thankful that we have more of it back. Every song and anthem doesn't have to be for the club or released by Drake, Migos or Future.